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Are coffee dates for the first date just outright cheap or a great way to break the ice?
I came across a viral tweet on Twitter from a young woman who said a guy asked her out on a coffee date to which she declined because she only does coffee for business meetings or friends. The guy then asked her out for dinner. Her argument was men who ask you out for coffee on the first date either don’t see you as worth the investment and just want to feel you out first or it’s a way for him to see multiple women as cheaply as possible.
First of all, a first date IS a way for each party to feel the other out so does it really matter if you’re sitting at a table with a $200 dinner or a $7 cup of coffee? A guy could argue that a daytime date at a coffee shop is suitable for a first time meetup since its a public place where she won’t feel uncomfortable and can be relaxed.
On the other hand, there are some men out there who don’t want to cash out on the first date. His rationale, why spend money on someone who I may not like or he can do five coffee dates this weekend with five different women to feel his options out. Yeah, hate to say it but that’s what dating has become these days.
But the same could be said of women. I mean, who wants to spend hours planning an outfit (possibly buying a new outfit), do a full face of makeup, get hair did and edges laid just for the date to turn out to be complete trash? For women, a coffee date could be a low-pressure way to have a good conversation with someone new and maybe it will turn into a second date.
A coffee date does not determine your worth, ladies. But hey, if you won’t go out with someone who won’t wine and dine you and that’s just your preference, no judgments here but you can go on a $200 dinner date and still get played.
No need to overthink it. Just get out there and have FUN!
What are your thoughts on coffee for a first date? Let’s chat.